pancake system * pancake system

friendlyangryfeminist:

• a woman pursuing a man who is not interested is ‘creepy’ or ‘crazy’. she deserves scorn and should be laughed at. if this woman is considered less attractive than the man, the man will be pitied. 

compared to 

• a man pursuing a woman who has said no, gives her gifts and continues to ask her on a date is ‘romantic’, ‘sweet’ and worthy of our respect and pity. the man’s attractiveness does not matter - men are fully realized people. 

this is how men are trained to be abusers. they’re not taught to hear ‘no’ from women, they’re taught that they are entitled to women and that when a woman rejects them it is not because the man has done anything wrong but that the woman just needs to be convinced. 

(via darling-nicky)